In Reply to: AR Moxon on the coming times posted by blindness on November 17, 2024 at 09:50:51
Forgot to add the heading that gives the context to the paragraphs.
When somebody hurts you, tell them.How does somebody of good will react to this information? They apologize. They ask questions designed to learn how the offense was given, and how to avoid future offense. They change their behavior. They make a real effort to never hurt you in that way again.
You know what a person of bad will does when told they've hurt others? They deny the other person's experience. They tell you the offense didn't happen, and if it did happen it didn't hurt you, and if it did hurt you then the injury represents only weakness on your part. They attack you, or try to throw some unrelated offense in your face, or question whether the pain you felt is real. They immediately cast around for excuses or deflections to establish their innocence, or try to force you to accept that they are innocent before they will even consider your complaint, and then if you give them what they demand they'll still refuse to consider it. They focus on their intentions in an attempt to exonerate themselves of their actions and the effects thereof, and they go looking for other people who will forgive them as proxies on your behalf.